Raised in Athens, Illinois, near the banks of the muddy Sangamon River, my dad learned the sacred arts of cat and carp fishing alongside his hard-living uncles, and his larger-than-life father. About the time I turned ten, dad got the notion that it was time to pass along those sacred arts to a new generation of Wagner boys.
In last year’s tattered “PF Flyers,” my brothers and I accompanied dad down a sticky summer’s country road. While walking, he explained the purpose of the net draped over his shoulder, and the empty bucket in his hand. One of the two long edges of that rectangular net was studded with lead weights. The opposite long edge was adorned with several miniature buoys tied off at three-inch intervals. When we got to the creek that dad had scouted out earlier in the week, he showed us how to operate this ancient technology. He called it, “seining.”
By holding the weighted end on the bottom, and the buoyed end on the surface of the water, two people could drag the creek for fish bate. The first run yielded a couple dozen or so acrobatic minnows, and baby mud cats that eventually found their way into our bucket. On the second pull, dad instructed us to drag our bottom hands through the mud. Up from the depths came writhing crawdads. They slapped their tales in outrage at their unthinkably bad fortune of living out the remainder of their shortened lives as fish bait.
Looking back, dad must have purchased that seining net at “Hogwarts” or some other wizardly apothecary. It was clearly magical. It had the power to erase years off of a dad’s age. Each time that net breached the surface with another round of zoological, and ichthyologic treasures, three little boys, and one over-sized boy stood united in childlike excitement. Oohing, ahing, and laughing, we loaded up our bucket until we harvested enough bate for fifty to seventy-five hooks.
Like I said, dad was taught to fish for the denizens of the muddy Sangamon River. Fancy rods, reels, or shiny lures were more or less useless when it came to the bottom-dwelling quarry we were after. From the back of our rowboat, dad tied one end of a fifty-foot line to a sturdy tree on the bank. Twenty-five or so hooks dangled from the mother-line at intervals of two feet. On the deep end, a rock pulled the line tight and kept it pinned to the lake floor.
Dad would sit in the back of the boat baiting hooks, or harvesting fish, while his boys took turns churning the creaky oar locks. To this day, dad would tell you that his profanity, and anger-laced tirades, barked from the back of the boat, represented a skillfully crafted strategy. His aim, he would say, was to counterbalance my mom’s Dr. Benjamin Spock-soft style of parenting. At the time, it seemed as if his tactics were more informed by frustration, or a prior trip to a local watering hole than a coherent parenting strategy.
This Sunday’s Father’s Day Gospel (Mark 4: 26-34) presented the famous parable of the “Mustard Seed.” In that story, the smallest, least conspicuous of all seeds, manifested a hidden power. In the fullness of time, strong branches sprouted from it that could support and shade many forms of life.
In retelling Jesus’ story, Mark invited us to reflect on the true nature of power. Harsh words, and an intimidating manner can illicit a kind of fear that gets immediate action. As a dad, I know that threats and a raised voice can peel a child off of a couch and onto a chore. But in the long-run, the power of the Kingdom of God is sown more effectively by slowly, and steadily sowing a thousand mustard seeds of intentional love. True and lasting authority grow best in this kind of soil.
Father’s Day is a great time to contemplate the nature of true power. By imitating Captain Blye from The Mutiny on the Bounty, my dad reasoned that he was teaching his boys lessons in masculinity. But when I look back, it seems to me that my dad was never more powerful… never modeled masculinity better… than when he stood up to his waste in a creek laughing and high-fiving three little boys.
Where have you experienced this kind of masculine power? Was there a dad, a grandpa, a coach, a teacher, a priest, or an uncle who manifested the hidden power of the mustard seed in how he nurtured, disciplined, and mentored you? If you are a dad, in your parenting, do you more often stir up storms, or calm the seas in your house? What kinds of seeds are you sowing in your own mission as a dad and mentor?